What would you not give to have the word “sex” set free from every trace of fear, guilt, shame and impurity?
Employing radical measures is the path to life, while indulging sin is the path to hell. God does not forbid sexual immorality because He wants you to be miserable; God forbids it because sexual immorality leads to brokenness, sadness, emptiness, death, and hell.
The first sexual thought in the universe was God’s, not man’s (Doug Barnett).
The stakes in the current conflict over sex are more critical, more central, and more essential than in any controversy the church has ever known. This is a momentous statement, but I make it soberly, without exaggeration. Conflict over sex these days is not just challenging tradition, orthodoxy, and respect for authority in areas such as ordination, marriage, and gender roles. And it does not just affect critically important decisions like the sanctity of human life, the authority and trustworthiness of Scripture, the Trinity and the incarnation of Christ. Rather, war over sex among Christians is now raging over absolutely essential matters of faith without which no one can be a Christian in the first place – matters such as sin, salvation, the gospel and the identity of God Himself (Daniel Heimbach).
[Jesus] was the most fully human, fully complete person who ever lived, and He was never married. He never indulged in any sort of sexual immorality (see Hebrews 4:15) – any sort of sexual thought, word, or deed outside of marriage between a man and a woman. Being true to who God has created you to be does not mean turning to sinful sexual desires.
The essence of loving living as a follower of Jesus isn’t in trying harder but in enjoying more. I’m not saying you can change without trying. I’m saying that enjoyment empowers effort. Pleasure in God is the power for purity.
We should pursue purity because the purpose of our redemption is holiness, not impurity. Impurity runs counter to everything God had in mind when He created us, called us, and redeemed us in Jesus.
Sexual temptation is an issue of the mind. The mind can only act on what has confronted it through sight, reading, or hearing. Therefore, to guard against sexual temptation we must be careful what we look at, read, or listen to. Images are planted which cause lust to take hold. Even when we do not act out immorality we can be polluted by a mental and emotional fixation on sex.
What are some of the best preventative measures against sexual sin?
1. Daily time with God in His Word and a commitment to spiritual growth.
2. A commitment to the battle for winning the lost.
3. A committed accountability relationship with one or two other [people].
4. A deepening marriage relationship with your wife.
5. A constant guard in your thought life and actions.
6. Determined and continually renewed commitment that you will not enter into sexual sin.
7. Defensive prayer.