A selfless man will be characterized by patience, restraint and an eagerness to do what is best for the object of his affections.
He Must Lead Like Christ by Voddie Baucham taken from What He Must Be by Voddie Baucham, copyright 2009, Crossway Books, a division of Good News Publishers, Wheaton Illinois 60187, www.crosswaybooks.org. Page 115.
By our conduct, our behavior, we signal inward rest and security and stability — or neediness. We evidence whether our hearts are satisfied in God and ready to overflow to meet others’ needs — or not. We show ourselves to be starved for undue attention, or eager to generously give our own attention to others. Humility demonstrates concern for others, while outward ostentation, or carelessness, broadcasts an inward emptiness aching to be filled.
Men Worthy of Admiration – Why Pastors Must be Respectable. Copyright 2021, Used by permission. www.DesiringGod.org.
Let us look at our lives in the light of this experience [in 2 Corinthians 12:7-10] and see whether we gladly glory in weakness, whether we take pleasure, as Paul did, in injuries, in necessities, in distresses. Yes, let us ask whether we have learned to regard a reproof, just or unjust, a reproach from friend or enemy, an injury, or trouble, or difficulty into which others bring us, as above all an opportunity of proving how Jesus is all to us, how our own pleasure or honor are nothing, and how humiliation is in very truth what we take pleasure in. It is indeed blessed, the deep happiness of heaven, to be so free from self that whatever is said of us or done to us is lost and swallowed up in the thought that Jesus is all.