Christians, when you understand your role as a leader and the value of your wife – balancing the two – you will rightly fulfill God’s expectations. Go wimpy on the leadership part (lack of initiative, masculinity, backbone) and you have become an Adam, Abraham, Ahab or Solomon. Go wimpy on the love and honor part and you’ve become a Nabel or Xerxes. It takes a lot of wisdom to be a godly husband who truly leads and who truly loves. The model is Christ’s leadership of His church. On a human level, my favorite biblical example is Boaz.