Quotes for Topic: Man-pleasing
You can end up in grave sin by thinking it is very important to be nice to people. How easy it is to practice a gutless compassion that never wants to offend anyone, that equates niceness with love and thereby ignores God's law and essentially despises His holiness. We do not necessarily seek God's honor when we spare human feelings.
Reference: 1 Samuel, Christian Focus Publications, 1 Samuel, p. 36-37. Get this book!
People-pleasers can mistake “niceness” for love. When they do, they will be prone to being manipulated by others, and burn-out is sure to follow. People-pleasers can also mistake “yes” for love.
Reference: When People are Big and God is Small, P&R Publishing, 1997, p. 214. Used by Permission. Get this book!
What is the result of…people-idolatry? As in all idolatry, the idol we choose to worship soon owns us. The object we fear overcomes us. Although insignificant in itself, the idol becomes huge and rules us. It tells us how to think, what to feel, and how to act. It tells us what to wear, it tells us to laugh at the dirty joke, and it tells us to be frightened to death that we might have to get up in front of a group and say something. The whole strategy backfires. We never expect that using people to meet our desires leaves us enslaved to them.
Reference: When People are Big and God is Small, P&R Publishing, 1997, p. 46. Used by Permission. Get this book!
Justification by faith is an answer to the greatest personal question ever asked by a human soul: "How shall I be right with God? How do I stand in God’s sight? With what favor does he look upon me?" There are those, I admit, who never raise that question. There are those who are concerned with the question of their standing before men but never with the question of their standing before God. There are those who are interested in what "people say" but not in the question of what God says. Such men, however, are not those who move the world. They are apt to go with the current. They are apt to do as others do. They are not the heroes who change the destinies of the race. The beginning of true nobility comes when a man ceases to be interested in the judgment of men and becomes interested in the judgment of God.
Reference: God Transcendent.
Approval junkies live as hostages to other people’s opinions and judgments regarding their thoughts, motives, feelings, or behaviors. Approval seekers look good; they have to... But people-pleasing isn’t godly, nor is it healthy. Appeasers usually end up feeling used, unappreciated, and driven to become all things to all people in order to maintain their image and receive continued approval. They appear giving but in fact they are enslaved to their insatiable need to be admired (Nancy Groom).
Reference: Copied from Bondage to Bonding: Escaping Codependency, Embracing Biblical Love copyright 1991, p. 35, Used by permission of NavPress – www.navpress.com, All rights reserved.
1. Human approval is divided. Some like you, others dislike you. A split vote. Who can you believe? 2. Human approval is shallow. None of them know your deepest heart. What if they did? 3. Human approval is distorted. Your friends overlook many failings. Your enemies can’t see anything right with you. How do you sort it all out? 4. Human approval is unsatisfying. The need of your heart for belovedness goes far beyond anything another sinner can say or do.
Reference: Blog Post: Human Approval, February 4, 2012, Used by Permission