Quotes for Topic: Love-defined
According to the world, we love in order to be loved. According to the Word, we love because God first loved us. Whereas the world falls in love, God’s people are established in love. The love that we possess, however, is not a fleeting whim that comes and goes with every mood and circumstance; rather, it is a love that is beyond ourselves. Our love, true love, has meaning, meaning that cannot be stripped away by any thing, any one, or any feeling. Our love cannot be shaken because it is grounded not in self but in sacrifice.
Reference: Love is in the Air, Tabletalk Magazine, May 2004, p. 6. Used by Permission.
Love as distinct from "being in love" is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both partners ask, and receive from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself.
Reference: Mere Christianity, p. 99.
Love is not a thing of enthusiastic emotion. It is a rich, strong, manly, vigorous expression of the whole round Christian character – the Christ-like nature in its fullest development. And the constituents of this great character are only to be built up by ceaseless practice.
Feelings change. You can’t promise to have a feeling. So if love is a feeling, the marriage vow makes no sense at all. But the vow does make sense because love is not a feeling. What is it, then? Love is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person. Of course, people who love each other usually do have strong feelings too, but you can have those feelings without having love. Love, let me repeat, is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person.
Reference: Copied from How to Stay Christian in College by J. Budziszewski copyright 2004, p.98. Used by permission of NavPress (Think Books) - www.navpress.com. All rights reserved. Get this book!
Love is NOT: 1. Something you “fall into” – a black hole. 2. Infatuation. Emotional loss of control. “Flipped out…” “Couldn't help myself.” Romanticism and sentimentalism. “Puppy love.” Boy-crazy; girl-crazy. 3. Evaluating another by external criteria. “She's a #10.” 4. Selfish. Interested in “getting” to satisfy my needs. 5. Taking advantage of another (age, height, weight, looks, intellect, emotional maturity, spiritual maturity, social standings, social skills, psychological understanding, place of authority, financial superiority, etc.). 6. Improper need fulfillment. Need for love, acceptance, relating, bonding, belonging, to be valued, affirmed, excitement, identity, etc. 7. Lust. Hormones. Lasciviousness, sensuality. “Let's get physical.” 8. Sex. “Making love.” 9. Idolatry. “......is my life.” Totally preoccupied in attention and time.
Reference: Excerpted from: Courtship, Study Outlines, 1999, www.christinyou.net.
Love is: 1. Respectful of the other person's values, standards and opinions. 2. Unselfish and unconditional. 3. A decision to relate to the other person at every level – spiritual, psychological and physical. 4. Giving of oneself to the other. 5. Responsible to seek the highest good of the other person “for better or for worse.” 6. God in action (Rom. 5:5; 1 John 4:8, 16).
Reference: James Fowler Excerpted from: Courtship, Study Outlines, 1999, www.christinyou.net.
Love is giving – giving of oneself to another. It is not getting, as the world says today. It is not feeling and desire; it is not something over which one has no control. It is something that we do for another. No one loves in the abstract. Love is an attitude that issues forth in something that actually, tangibly happens.
Reference: Christian Living in the Home, P&R Publishing, 1972, p. 99, Used by Permission.
Love at first is not feeling. Love first can be expressed as giving. That is at the core of love. If one gives, the feeling of love will follow. To love we must give of ourselves, of our time, of our substance, of whatever it takes to show love; for giving is fundamental to the biblical idea of love.
Reference: Christian Living in the Home, P&R Publishing, 1972, p. 41, Used by Permission.
Biblical love is not emotions or feelings, but attitudes and actions that seek the best interests of the other person, regardless of how we feel toward him.
Reference: The Practice of Godliness, NavPress, 1996, p. 208. Used by permission of NavPress – www.navpress.com. All rights reserved. Get this book!
Love binds together all virtues of Christian character. Love is not so much a character trait as the inner disposition of the soul that produces them all… Though love may be more a motivational force than an actual display of Christian virtue, it always results in actions on our part. Love inclines us and directs us to be kind, to forgive, to give of ourselves to one another.
Reference: The Practice of Godliness, NavPress, 1996, p. 203. Used by permission of NavPress – www.navpress.com. All rights reserved. Get this book!
The primary meaning of the word “love” in Scripture is a purposeful commitment to sacrificial action for another. In fact, loving God is demonstrated by obeying His Word (Jn. 14:15, 21, 23-24; 1 Jn. 5:3; 2 Jn. 1:6). Powerful emotions may accompany biblical love, but it is the commitment of the will that holds love steadfast and unchanging. Emotions may change, but a commitment to love in a biblical manner endures and is the hallmark of a disciple of Jesus Christ.
Reference: Self-Confrontation Manuel, Lesson 13, Page 4, Used by Permission of the Biblical Counseling Foundation.
Genuine love is not merely a feeling or an involuntary attraction. It involves a willful choice, and that is why (the word is often) in the form of an imperative. Far from being something we “fall into” by happenstance, authentic love involves a deliberate, voluntary commitment to sacrifice whatever we can for the good of the person we love.
Reference: The Fulfilled Family, Copyright: John MacArthur, 2005, p. 58-59.
Love is the overflow of joy in God! It is not duty for duty's sake, or right for right's sake. It is not a resolute abandoning of one's own good with a view solely to the good of the other person. It is first a deeply satisfying experience of the fullness of God's grace, and then a doubly satisfying experience of sharing that grace with another person. Buy Now
Reference: Desiring God, 1996, p. 103, Used by Permission, www.desiringGod.org.
Selfishness seeks its own private happiness at the expense of others. Love seeks its happiness in the happiness of the beloved. It will even suffer and die for the beloved in order that its joy might be full in the life and purity of the beloved.
Reference: Desiring God, 1996, p. 176, Used by Permission, www.desiringGod.org.
Love is the pursuit of our joy in the holy joy of the beloved. There is no way to exclude self-interest from love, for self-interest is not the same as selfishness. Selfishness seeks its own private happiness at the expense of others. Love seeks its happiness in the happiness of the beloved. It will even suffer and die for the beloved in order that its joy might be full in the life and purity of the beloved.
Reference: The Dangerous Duty of Delight, Copyright 2001, p. 63, John Piper. Used by permission. www.DesiringGod.org.
Love is not an emotion to which we may give expression now and then, as we feel inclined; it is a duty required of us at all times by God, and the children of God ought surely to obey their Heavenly Father (Alexander Ross).
Reference: The Epistles of James and John, Eerdmans, 1954, p. 208, Used by Permission, www.eerdmans.com.
In the New Testament, love is more of a verb than a noun. It has more to do with acting than with feeling. The call to love is not so much a call to a certain state of feeling as it is to a quality of action.
Reference: The Intimate Marriage, P&R Publishing, 1975, p. 53.
To the Christian, love is the works of love. To say that love is a feeling or anything of the kind is really an un-Christian conception of love. That is the aesthetic definition and therefore fits the erotic and everything of that nature. But to the Christian, love is the works of love. Christ's love was not an inner feeling, a full heart and what-not: it was the work of love which was His life.